Transcript
Hey guys! Welcome to The Thoughtful Beasts! This channel is all about teaching you how to create your own happiness. Today, we’re going to talk about finding yourself by finding your values. The last place that I want to talk about where having values based off of other people can go wrong has to do with religion and kind of embedded in that… like family.
A lot of people, especially younger people, struggle with being gay or having another gender identity outside the norm because of all the values and “shoulds” and “supposed to be” put on by other people. Right? Put on either by their families, or their churches or their just cultures, whatnot. And it’s really hard if those people that you’ve known for years growing up-your family-just turn around say to you you’re wrong. That the way you’re living is disgusting. That can be so painful!
The thing is that you don’t have to listen to them. You can have your own set of values. Being gay can be okay. Like, it can actually be okay. Just because you’re… you’re on the opposite side of like your mom and people you love ,doesn’t mean you’re wrong. It’s okay to disagree with your family. It’s okay to maybe leave them because it might be a toxic environment for you because you’re different… because you’re gay… because of whatever difference you have. You know? That doesn’t mean, don’t love your family. Even if your family is vehemently against you, that doesn’t mean that they hate you either. I think a lot of the time, it’s really fear for you. I can’t speak for everyone, but I think it can be that. It can be really fear for you that is coming out as hate.
You can’t let other people’s ignorance shape you or be about you. You have to be about yourself, and pull like away from that. You know? Educate yourself. Find your own family. Ru Paul says it all the time, right? Cuz like there’s a lot of gay people who are not accepted by their families, and so they make their own families. I think anyone can do that. If you don’t gel with your families because the things that are important to you are different… your values are different… that’s fine. Trying so hard to make other people change, like hoping that it happens and they one day will accept you might just be like a waste of energy. And that sounds harsh, but it might be true. I’m not saying give up on your your family or born into, but like don’t wait for them to have a family you want.
The big takeaway is that your values need to be your own. Definitely take some time to think about what is important to you! If you liked this video, please remember to like, comment and subscribe, and I will see you guys later!
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… their families because of duligion. Cuz of the DULIGION! Because of delicious!…uhhh..Again!
