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Hey guys! This is Trixi! Welcome to The Thoughtful Beast. This channel is all about bringing awareness to mental health!
Today, we’re talking about mindfulness and what is mindfulness. It’s not just like yoga pants and breathing and being thankful… even though I’m all about that. Mindfulness is becoming like a trendy word. It’s like a BuzzFeed thing. It’s very much targeted towards mothers and young people, but it’s not just for them. It’s for you too!!!…especially if you’re suffering with some sort of mental illness.
Mindfulness is awareness around your thoughts, your feelings, how you behave and what your impulses are. This is important because the more you’re aware of those things, the more you can make better choices. You feel more empowered, and you have control. People just think like, “No! This is just the way I am! I can get really angry, and it’s just real! Like this is how I feel!”
…like no. You can definitely help yourself control that, so let’s get started!
I learned mindfulness from DBT. DBT is Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It’s a form of therapy that I really like because it’s about building skills! It’s like about worksheet! Sometimes it’s easier to fill out a worksheet than it is to talk straight about your feelings and analyze them. It’s really nice because you have those worksheets you are doing, you can write down what you’re feeling, and then like look at it later.
So today we’re gonna talk about the three states of mind. We’re looking at mindfulness through the lens of DBT. The three states of mind are reasonable mind, emotion mind and wise mind is in the midd. They make a nice little Venn diagram.
Reasonable mind is more focused on goals, logic and facts, and there’s a good side to that…
“Oh my gosh you guys! I’m so excited for my first day of school I have my backpack ready! I got my planner! I got my scheduler right here, and I’m gonna study five days a week! And then I’m gonna do my weekend job so that I have some cash to do everything I need to do….”
and a bad side…
“Oh my gosh! So I’m supposed to go to college for four years. I just got accepted to Harvard ,and I’m supposed to be a lawyer now…and I’m supposed to work…work on the weekend and I’m going to get married and have kids. Wait. How am I supposed to meet someone if I’m working on the weekend? I’m supposed to have kids, but I’m supposed to have kids. Right?.”
The bad part of reasonable mind is that if you get too caught up in the rules or “rules”- what you’re supposed to do in life and the path that you’re supposed to follow. If this is what you think and that is your logical progression, you’re gonna have a lot of anxiety because you might not actually believe in that logic. That’s just what you think things are supposed to be, and then it makes you like this. This is what people have anxiety and depression because they think they’re supposed to be one thing or another.
Emotion mind is about your emotions and your feelings, and there’s a good side…
“Oh my god! I just went to this conference, and it like blew my mind! I totally want to be a public speaker for mental health and be an advocate and help people learn!”
So the positive aspects of emotional mind are feeling motivation and inspiration to do things. It’s when your emotions really help you go forward. Emotion mind can be bad when you let your emotions take over, especially when you’re in a situation where that is not great…
“I’m just so honored to be here, and I never thought that I would get a Nobel Peace Prize for mental health awareness, but look here. I’m just so excited and glad, and I just want to thank my husband Charlie…Charlie! I see you touching her. You son of a…”
You know, you’re definitely allowed to have your feelings and feel them, but also the way that you regulate them-how you choose to manage your emotions, that’s really important.
The last sate of mind that we’re going to talk about today it is “wise mind”. Wise mind is a skill of mindfulness and like all skills, you need practice. It takes practice to help regulate your emotions and control them, to not snap at other people, right? It also takes practice to be able to be goal oriented but not so tunnel vision that you don’t care what happens to everybody else. These are skills you can make for yourself. You can build for yourself. They’re totally achievable, and they definitely help you to live the best life you possibly can.
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